I am having my tubes tied and feeling a little conflicted

So My dh and I have talked about this since we found out I was pregnant. We both decided that I should do it since we dont want anymore kids and pregnancies are just too hard on me. Today while at my docters appoinment I signed the papers for scheduling my c section and for having my tubes tied. While he was telling me that it can never be reversed and reading the word steralized on the paper I got a little scared. I know that i dont want to have anymore kids but I am afraid to have this done.I love the idea of not having to worry about getting pregnant but at th same time it freaks me out that I cant. I cant take any kind of birthcontrol since they all make me very sick so this is the right thing for us to do. I am going to go through with it, I just need some encouragment. Thanks.

What you read on paper sounds so cold in comparision to all of the thought you have put into the decision, and it does make you think about it further, which I think is their point--they want to be absolutely sure you know what you are getting into and that it can't be reversed. If you and dh are happy with the decision then don't worry it is the right choice for your family. Here are some good vibes for you.

You need to be sure of what you want. You don't want more children, you don't want to deal with birth control. If you have problems with some forms of birth control, you are VERY likely to have a "surprise" baby in your future. What would upset you more, another child in 1 1/2 years, or not having that same child? Every family needs to decide how many kids are right for them. There are also financial concerns, can your budget handle another child later on? If it would be a real problem to provide for the "surprise" baby, that is another reason to go ahead with your planned surgery.

Good luck with whatever you decide. My friend has four kids and manages very well. I would go nuts with four kids myself!

Your DH could have a vasectomy instead. It's less invasive and can usually be reversed.

Originally Posted by mgkamish Your DH could have a vasectomy instead. It's less invasive and can usually be reversed.

Yep, whole lot easier on him then the surgery on you.

I had my tubes tied in January. The surgery went fine, but I have cramps worse now than before the surgery. My doctor said they should ease up. I didn't want anymore children either, so it was our best option. It is nice knowing that I dont have to worry about birth control any longer. I can live with the cramping a little while longer, knowing that! If you are scared, maybe your DH should think about the vasectomy.

Originally Posted by mgkamish Your DH could have a vasectomy instead. It's less invasive and can usually be reversed.

Great idea. That was my BIL's deal with his wife: since she had to give birth (twice) he'd be the one to get the procedure done.

If it is too hard to put your body through pregnancy, I think you are making a great decision.

Originally Posted by Faulkner99 Great idea. That was my BIL's deal with his wife: since she had to give birth (twice) he'd be the one to get the procedure done.

I agree this would be my preference with my DH Do you have to have a C-section? if so and it can be done at the same time I guess id go thru with it. if it was the only reason for a c-section I'd say no way. Just my

Only wishing you the best for a easy delivery and a healthy

ps: to dylan

I had a tubal ligation about 4 weeks after my child...
It's was easier than birth, since you are getting
the C-section with it, you won't notice any
difference

I loooovve my son, but I knew it was going to be
difficult for me to raise him with my medical condition,
so I decided to take the plunge at 28...

The doctor didn't want to do it, because I was young,
had one child and no spouse... But I did, and I have
no regrets...

I know if I had another child I would love him/her
equally... I also know that "twins" run in our family...

This is a big decision,
6 years ago, they told me if I wanted it reversed
it would cost $15,000 and gave me a low percentage
of sucess.

Deep down in my heart, I know I got the eggs, so there's
a way, if I really wanted to do it again.

It's fun watching my son grow up... Sometimes you
miss the times he's in his crib peacefully sleeping,
when he's 5 and running around you in circles... But
it's all part of growing up...

And someday you will probably have grandchildren!!!

My vote is, if YOU don't want to have more children then
YOU should get the tubal ligation.

If HE doesn't want to then HE should...

Have you heard of essure? Here's one of those descriptions on Yahoo!:

Unlike tubal ligation and vasectomy, there are no incisions or punctures to the body. Essure takes about 35 minutes, does not require general anesthesia, and provides permanent birth control without hormones. ... "I was impressed that the procedure doesn't involve surgery, the recovery time is quick, and it is ..."

http://www.essure.com/consumer/c_homepage.aspx

It's less scarier, and a lot of insurance companies are covering it now.

I'm having a c-section also and I'm getting my tubes tied. My husband and I don't want any more kids either so since I'm already going to be cut open I'm getting it done. My mom told me not to do it, but it's what I want.

I had a tubal 18 months ago
after 2 boys
I have no regrets
if sure that you don't want any more
I think it's the way to go.
It doesn't add to anything by having done with a c-section
your open already.

I will tell you the periods got worse after but maybe that just me
although I've heard other women complain of the same thing.
Cramps, Etc...

Hope everything goes well for you

Originally Posted by michele51379 So My dh and I have talked about this since we found out I was pregnant. We both decided that I should do it since we dont want anymore kids and pregnancies are just too hard on me. Today while at my docters appoinment I signed the papers for scheduling my c section and for having my tubes tied. While he was telling me that it can never be reversed and reading the word steralized on the paper I got a little scared. I know that i dont want to have anymore kids but I am afraid to have this done.I love the idea of not having to worry about getting pregnant but at th same time it freaks me out that I cant. I cant take any kind of birthcontrol since they all make me very sick so this is the right thing for us to do. I am going to go through with it, I just need some encouragment. Thanks.

michele51379,


I had my tubes done the day after I gave birth to my 3rd child.

My 3rd child was a surprise, and I did not want anymore surprises. LOL!

They made the incision through my belly button, which is kind of nice
because the scars are inside my belly button, so you cannot see
the scars unless you are looking directly into my belly button.
I've heard some women tell me thier incisions were in different
places, I guess it just depends on your doctor & and where
he wants to make the incision.


I was extremely sore after having mine done, it felt like someone
hit me in the stomach with a sledgehammer.

I think it depends on your body though, and how your body
takes the surgery, because I've heard some women tell me
they felt hardly no pain at all with thier surgery, but then other
women have told me they were extremely sore like I was.


As for your husband having a vasectomy, I agree with the other
women, as that is the easier, & cheaper thing to have done,
but I also say good luck in trying to get your husband to
have it done, because not all men are ga ga over having
thier "Pride & Joy" messed with.

When I had my daughter almost 2 years ago, I had a C-section for the 2nd time, and I knew I didn't want anymore after my boy and girl. I had my tubes tied. I had just turned 21 and my doctor said that it that state you had to be 21 for my insurance to cover it. He told me that if I really wanted it and my insurance didn't cover it he would do it for free!, because he didn't want any more unwanted children out there. I have had some problems with my period, but they are straighting there self out. I have bad headachs with birth control, so this was the best idea.