Need Advice About Neighbor

The other day, I was moving my furniture around and had to stop right in the middle to go get speaker wire from Big Lots. Well, while I was in there I noticed they had some pool toys on sale so I picked them up as well. After that, I see my neighbor from across the street. He was getting a garden sprinkler. So we talk for a minute and make our way up to the regiters and he grabs my stuff and puts it on the counter. I'm assuming he's just being polite and letting me pay for my stuff first. Well, he ends up PAYING FOR IT. It's like $10 worth of stuff. I said, "No, no, no, no" but he insisted.

So then, he asks if I like food from his country (He's from Vietnam) and I say I had never tried it that I know of. He says follow me (as in drive behind him). And we go to this little Vietnamese restaraunt. I tried to back out by saying I'd already ate but still, he wouldn't take no for an answer. So I go ahead in the restaraunt and he asks what I want. I say, well since I don't know anything why don't you order for me. So he orders PORK BALLS!!! LOL, I surely hope they weren't really balls and that they were just rolled up somethings. I didn't eat much of it.

Anyway, the weird thing is: HE'S MARRIED. I felt very uncomfortable the whole time, like I was sneaking around or something. He lives in their house along with his wife, daughter, brother, sister-in-law, their kid, Mother and Father. And during lunch he talked about all of them except his wife. He tells me "You need Man" and that I'm beautiful. WTH??

So this morning, I was sitting out on the front porch (still in my sleep clothes, although I guess they could be mistaken for regular clothes) smoking a cigarette. Yes, I smoke but not in my house, car or restaraunts. And he just walks over sits down and starts smoking his cigarette. I'm sitting here yawning my head off because I had just woke up. And I'm NOT a morning person. He asks if I got my furniture moved from the other day. I say yes and he asks if he can see it. I was like, Uh, well, Ok. We come in the house and he proceeds to tell me again how beautiful I am. Finally, I was like, "Well, I gotta go take a shower and go to my Mom's house" He kept asking questions about her. Was she at work, do I have to go, etc. Then as he was leaving, he asked if he could come over again sometime. I said, um yeah bring your wife and daugter with you next time. Then he asked if I wanted to go have lunch again today. I told him I was busy.

I don't know what to do. I am absolutely not interested in him. First because he's married and I don't do that. Second, because I am not interested in dating ANYBODY. I still love my Husband even if he has been dead for almost 5 years. I'm not over it yet. Third, If I WAS to want to date somebody I would surely want them to be able to speak English well enough for me to understand. I can't even pronounce this guy's name.

So how can I make him see that I am not interested without being mean. I mean we are neighbors and have to live next to them but I want it to be strictly that. Neighbors.

So now, since I told him I was going to my Mom's I feel like I've got to go for real and be away from the house for a little while so he'll believe me. But I have the day off today and was really looking forward to just working around the house. It makes me feel like a prisoner. I've got to stay inside or in the back yard (or leave) or else he'll come running over here.

Somebody, give me some advice here...

Wow, neighbor or no neighbor, you have got to get more aggessive with this guy and let him know you don't want to be bothered. Letting him pay for your items and going to lunch may have given him the wrong idea and I sure wouldn't let him in my house again when he is alone. Make an excuse or just say NO. You don't have to give him any excuses like going to your mom's or going anywhere. If he comes over in the morning just tell him you aren't a morning person and you like to be alone and don't want company. I realize you are trying to be nice but that is giving him the wrong impression, some people don't take hints and you just have to tell them straight up. Good luck.

Honesty is the best policy... YOu need to tell him that you feel uncomfortable about his advances and you are not interested! Pronto!!

Tell him straight up that you aren't interested in him at all.