Positive pregnancy poll

[jndperry]

My husband and I have been "trying" to get pregnant since my Depo shot wore off in May. Sure enough, I just took my second pregnancy test (one yesterday and one today), and they were both positive. Now, I am wondering how I should tell my husband, so I thought I would post a poll to get everyone's input.

[noelleray]

congrats,happy and healthy 9 months!

[allie]

Wow, CONGRATULATIONS! Have a happy and healthy eight more months (hey you're a month pg!!).

You are so lucky! I was on that horrid Depo shot and it took so long to get out of my system and regain any chance of having a baby, sigh. {{HUGS}} to you.

I told my DH by buying him a card with a baby smiling on the front and inside it said "We did it!" and he knew immediately. :D

Congrats again!!!

[kbsocial]

What a fabulous gift for the holiday season! Congrats to you both :hugs:

[tommy]

congrats to you and dh jndperry and hopefully in 9 or so months you will both have a lovely new addition to your family :smile9:

i didn't vote cause i didn't wanna call you stupid but i think you should get on the phone now and call him

congrats again and good luck :)

[Rapunzel676]

Congratulations!!!! :toot: :baby: :toast:

I voted for the Christmas option, just because that would be such a cool gift, but I liked your other choices too--the restaurant and the T-shirt ideas are great. I bet it would be fun for your daughter to get involved in the surprise, because I know it can sometimes be difficult for little ones when a new sibling is on the way. :gvibes:

[respira]

there is no way I could wait for christmas, I couldn't even wait an hour :cheer7:
Congratulations! You must be on :cloud9:

[ignoramoose]

That's awesome news, congratulations to you!!! This calls for a puffy. :jump: :jump:

I voted for the Christmas option, but I myself could never keep a secret that long. I have problems not telling DH what is wrapped up under the tree for him!

[skpaw]

Congratulation on your happy news! I would not wait to tell husband--next time you are alone let him share the great news. Also you might have moments that you are not feeling your best and he should know why and then he will be more helpful with chores and your kids. :cool2:

[jndperry]

Thanks for all your well-wishes and votes! I am definitely leaning toward Christmas, especially since he accidentally found out about the digital camera that was going to be his "big" present. There are three down sides that I can forsee to that idea, though. The first is the big question: can I WAIT that long???? The second is that my husband is very aware of my cycle, and he will know something is up if nothing happens between now and then.

Finally, my husband's mom, sister, and grandma will all be here for Christmas. While I think everyone will be thrilled (and they will have to find out eventually), I really want to sensitive to his sister, who has been married six years and unable to conceive. She loves our kids and has been very excited for us to have both of them, but I don't want to make her Christmas a downer by making her think of what she doesn't have. Still, I think even if I tell my husband sooner, we will probably tell the grandparents then, so it might be a moot point.

Thanks so much for letting me get all this off my chest...I was just aching to tell someone, and you have helped me get that out of my system. My OLS friends are great! :gvibes:

[Glam]

All I can say is WOW! Congratulations! :binky:

[Robin]

What great news, congrats! We tried for both of our children and
DH knew before I would even take the test that we were expecting!
:laugh: Good luck on holding out until christmas, I never could
keep a secret that long! :)

[Mary Beth]

Good luck keeping it secret. I never could have, since I started falling asleep and napping (something I never do) when I was two weeks pregnant - before I missed a cycle!

[Marie]

Congratulations to you and your husband!

The poll told me to enumerate so I think you should tell him as soon as possible, but not on the telephone.

~~Marie

[banzai]

Have you figured your due date yet? Maybe you could sort of tie that in to the way you tell him. Ivillage has a pregnancy calendar to figure out the date if you haven't already (I think it is under the parentsoup/parentplace site). Good luck!

[jndperry]

All right, waiting until Christmas is officially out of the picture now. I tore my ACL a few weeks ago, and I was scheduled to have surgery on December 18th. When I called the doctor today, he said that they don't do "elective" surgery when you're pregnant, so I will have to wait until after the baby is born (yikes! a long time to go with this limp!). Now I can put all sorts of stuff past my husband, but I'm pretty sure he'd notice if I DIDN'T have surgery on the 18th!

So now we are back to the other options. I will most likely tell him tomorrow night after work, at least if our 3-year-old doesn't have another night like tonight! I considered telling him tonight, but then our son threw a HUGE tantrum (like an hour of serious rage), and it turned into one of those nights where you wonder why you wanted to have kids in the first place! :laugh:

My due date should be around August 7th, so I can't really think of anything to coordinate with that. We will be going to a family reunion I won in mid-July, so I am hoping this one either comes 5 weeks early like big brother, or right on the due date like big sis! Either way, Disneyland and Sea World should be TONS of fun at that point, right?

[goldylox]

Decorate your christmas tree and buy a special ornament for the new baby. Could be something baby related like a pacifier or a baby's 1st christmas ornament. Make it the last ornament you put on the tree and tell him you have a special ornament that he needs to help you hang. I think it'd be so cool to tell him by the light of the tree.

Congratulations and good luck,

Goldylox

[bean_cat]

If you did still want to wait to tell him about your new bundle of joy til christmas you could always say that they changed the date of your surgery (to a random date AFTER christmas) because the doctor is going out of town for the holidays.

I really like goldylox's idea. You could even do that whenever you decorate your tree before christmas. That way you don't have to wait so long. You don't have to wait til christmas eve/day.

[Heather]

Depo can be horrid, yes, but it's ultra-convenient and works well for me thus far. I think I may have been pregnant once about 9 years ago.. but I never really told many or talked about it. It was over at the same time I even knew it had happened. It's a long story. I've never had a kid yet, so I unfortunately, am of no good advice to you, but if i was and i was in a relationship, where I did love the guy and I thought he loved me, I would just outright tell him, maybe over dinner... not sure. I wouldnt keep it from him longer than I had to... unless maybe it was the first month with a new boyfriend... or on the rocks, but even so, I believe firmly I'd tell the guy right away. He does have a right to know and it seems, the sooner he does, the better, so it has time to sink in, before he suddenly 'notices' your body changing too quickly. hey, u dont want him to think you're just mad on chocolate, right?! :laugh:
Good luck and I'm sure however u choose, will be right for you. Just dont wait too long to tell him, whatever u do. :)

[Heather]

Come to think of it, I wouldn't be able to keep it to myself much longer than a day or so. It would be fun to wait til Xmas, but it still seems so far off to keep to yourself.
Many Congrats to you and your husband and let us know what u choose, please, if u dont mind. Good luck! What fun!! :)

[jndperry]

Ooh, goldylox, I REALLY like your idea! We were going to decorate the tree tonight or tomorrow anyway, so that would work out perfectly. We get an ornament every year for each of our kids (to be given to them when they have their frist tree on their own), and that would be a very special keepsake to pass on when they are older and on their own (along with the story, of course).

I considered telling him that the surgery was postponed, but I would also have to "fake" my cycle, and I just don't feel good about all that deception, even if it is for a good cause! :halo: We will probably tell the grandparents that my surgery was postponed and tell them on Christmas, though. And I'm open to any cute ideas to tell them, as well.

Thanks everyone!
Debi

[clbrowni]

Congrats to you and your family!! Sorry about the ACL, how terrible that you're going to have to put off the surgery, but I'm sure it's for the best. I'm not sure what type of person you are, but here's some suggestions.

1. Wait until the next time u2 have sex and have a bell nearby, at the appropriate time, ring it and say 'we have a winner' (ok, maybe not)

2. Wait until 4:15am, then start up a tape recorder of a baby crying and tell him it's to give him practice (only do if he's not the violent type) :)

3. Buy a set of newborn diapers and ask him if he remembers how to use 'em.

4. How about using a washable marker and write on your belly 'shhh, baby being made' (Also can use something lickable to make it more fun.) *grin*

5. I can't think of anything romantic, sorry, that's my dh's job. :)

again, wonderful news, congrats.
cindi

[jndperry]

1. Wait until the next time u2 have sex and have a bell nearby, at the appropriate time, ring it and say 'we have a winner' (ok, maybe not)

Darn! And I thought I would never have a need for one of those red DJ lights from cokemusic! Your post made me laugh so hard- you definitely have a wicked sense of humor!
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

[BlueIrishEyes]

I would get a little silver rattle and wrap it. Make some egg nog and after your little one is in bed, serve the egg nog, some special dessert and give him the box as an early Christmas gift.

Whatever you decide..

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!! What a happy time for you. :jump:

[twinmommytoo]

I could not avoid telling my husband. With my twins my blood levels were so high we knew there were, as my doctor said, "more than one but let's hope it's just two." My husband was hysterical waiting until they were big enough to count on ultrasound (they started out as triplets).

With my latest daughter: one day after I had taken the pee test, never saying a word, he looked at me and said, "You're pregnant, aren't you?" At least I didn't have to think of how to tell him this time.

Congratulations on your latest! :jump: :jump: :jump:

*the bell idea is still cracking me up! :laugh:

[Mike]

Congrats! :cheer7: Nice Win! :laugh:

[clbrowni]

Darn! And I thought I would never have a need for one of those red DJ lights from cokemusic! Your post made me laugh so hard- you definitely have a wicked sense of humor!
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Oooh, a coke light and a bell, now that would be fun! LOL! Have a safe and easy pregnancy!

cindi

[groovyguru]

I think something as important to both of you should not be kept a secret at all. Sure it might be more fun to use it as a surprise. He was involved and has a right to know as soon as you do. That said, I hope you have a happy healthy baby.

[jndperry]

Thanks everyone. I just thought I would let everyone know that I told him Friday night while we decorated the Christmas tree. I couldn't find an ornament that said anything like "We're expecting," so instead I bought one that was a mommy snowman holding a little baby snowman. Then I got a Sharpie marker and wrote on the front, "Baby-To-Be 2003." On the back, I wrote, "Expected Arrival: August 7, 2003."

When the kids were done with the ornaments, I told Alex to have daddy help him hang one last one. The hang card from the store was still on it, so I figured it would take him a minute to get it off and he would notice the writing. He almost got it on the tree without noticing, but then I saw his brow furrow as he read it, and then he realized what it said and turned to me with one of those big, dopey grins on his face. We cried, hugged, and the kids looked at us like we were insane!

We had a chance to go on a date without the kids last night, and I think the pregnancy hormones are already kicking in. I just kept tearing up thinking how blessed I am. I am married to my best friend, a man who I truly enjoy just being with and look forward to spending the rest of eternity with. I have a great little boy who is ALL boy and hates Barbies and all "girl stuff," but he has a love for life that takes my breath away. I have my beautiful baby girl, who loves Barbies and all "girl stuff," but is patient and long-suffering enough to play with her brother and listen when he says Barbies are stupid. I have another little life on the way, and with it, I have all the hopes, dreams, and plans that are ahead. I am so incredibly blessed to have all that I do, and I am especially grateful for this new reason I have to give thanks.

[Glam]

Geez Jndperry, I don't even have kids and your last post made me cry...again I say "WOW", and best wishes for a happy and healthy New Year! :gvibes:

[Tametaz]

Congrats on the wonderful news! I love the way you told him!!!

[ignoramoose]

Jndperry, what a wonderful way to tell him. I am so happy for you! Congratulations :)

[respira]

That was a wonderful story, brought tears to my eyes. I just love the way you told him :)

[cubanita]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!WHAT A PLEASANT SURPRISE!!!!! :supstar:

[kbsocial]

Geez Jndperry, I don't even have kids and your last post made me cry...again I say "WOW", and best wishes for a happy and healthy New Year! :gvibes:


Yeah, what Patrice said :sob: What a beautiful and touching moment for your family. Again, congratulations!!

[lexuso4]

First CONGRATS on your new baby. i have a suggestion. if your family gets together or your dh family gets together, for the holidays why dont you play the game Pictionary and you be the first i to draw and let them guess what it is that you are drawing ( no one else up there but you). just a thought. :cheer7: :cheer7:

P.S.

Think about this ladies who have had kids why do men say WE are pregnant??? lol