Layla wants Fuschia Streaks...

[Mare]

On Wednesday evening I am taking Layla to get her hair trimmed. Just a trim-nothing special. She has now informed me that she would like Fuschia Streaks in her hair. She is a very artsy, creative kid, but she's 10.

What do you think, Mommies?

Mare "and now it begins" Rivera :cool3:

[strwbrywn20]

My initial reaction is she's too young, but what can it hurt? Maybe have her try some of that hair dye that shampoos out after a few washes, that way she's not stuck with it if she decides it was a bad move!

[Revawter]

I say she can do it in the summer. :laugh:

And no boys until she is 21!!!!

[Mare]

I also thought about saying yes just for the summer, but not now. And I may stick with that. The woman who does our hair is pretty cool. She may simply tell Layla she won't do it anyway.
I'm going to call her next week and talk to her about it, but I always like to get the "mommy" consensus and see if anyone has experienced this already.

Mare "no tattoos until 11" Rivera :cool3:

[Fidget]

My nephew had his hair blue when he was 5. He batted his eyes at mommy and said I want hair the color of the sky. Of course it was spray in but on white blonde hair it took a few weeks to wash out completely! :laugh: I would make her wait till summer. Make it a reward for a good school year. If you hair lady wont do it you can do it with stuff at Sally's beauty supply. if you do it though i DO NOT reccomend bleaching the streaks in first but rather painting it over her exsisting hair color so it's more like Fuscia highlights. A bit more subtle and a lot less stressful on her hair

[binski]

Mare honey, she is your child and you are the queen of purple! Tell her it must be purple or no go. :magic:

And OMG, I can't believe she's 10 already!!!!

[Mom2myboys]

What about something like the color pulse products?
http://www.walgreens.com/store/product.jsp?CATID=100661&navAction=jump&navCount=1&id=prod1313683
It says it washes out in 8-10 shampoos. My boys wanted colored spikes.... they are 5 & 7. I went to Sallys and bought Beyond the Zone colored hair cement. They love it! It washes out each night too.

[Mare]

Mare honey, she is your child and you are the queen of purple! Tell her it must be purple or no go. :magic:

And OMG, I can't believe she's 10 already!!!!

Yes, she's ten, but she has the attitude of a sixteen year old. :rolleyes: As a matter of fact, she's upstairs stomping around because she's mad that we told her that even though it's Easter vacation she has to be upstairs by 11:00. Keeps that up, I'll put green streaks in her hair while she's sleeping. ;)

Mom2myboys, That's a great idea. We have an Ulta here that carries all sorts of things like that. I'll have to look.

Mare "who ordered this girly girl?" Rivera :cool3:

[hort1]

I'm not a mommie, but I am a parent.

My take - given that it is someone else's child and not mine - is that "Hey, why not? There's lots worse things they could be doing!"

My son is eleven, and there are several kids in his grade (and the school) who have streaks of various colors. I really don't see the harm.

There is however a tendency - when it is your own child - to frown upon such things. I think it stems from several impulses. We don't want our child to be "different" because we know that there can be negative social consequences. We don't want our kids to grow up and assert their separate identity and grow apart from us. We want to guide them in their choices. We don't want to be known as "the parent of that freaky kid with the colored hair."

Hair grows. Let her do it. Tell her how good it looks. Take lots of pictures. Use them in the years to come.

[tcandy214]

my daughter wanted color i bought her that red wash out in 8 to 10 shampoos every now and then she does it and mind you she was like 13 when she asked but if you say no they want it more and more

[Faulkner99]

When I was just a little older than her, my parents let me tint my hair purple/eggplant with this stuff called "Manic Panic" (do they even make it anymore?) that was a semi-permanent cellophane type color thing. And you know, I turned out ok. Well, so-so on some days, but hey at least I pay the bills and I know how to cook and dance, right? I have a couple of skills.

Hair grows, and if there's any time to be wild it's now. She'll have alot harder time with fuschia streaks when she's interviewing for med school, so better to let her do it now. ;)

[Mare]

I'm not a mommie, but I am a parent.

My take - given that it is someone else's child and not mine - is that "Hey, why not? There's lots worse things they could be doing!"

My son is eleven, and there are several kids in his grade (and the school) who have streaks of various colors. I really don't see the harm.

There is however a tendency - when it is your own child - to frown upon such things. I think it stems from several impulses. We don't want our child to be "different" because we know that there can be negative social consequences. We don't want our kids to grow up and assert their separate identity and grow apart from us. We want to guide them in their choices. We don't want to be known as "the parent of that freaky kid with the colored hair."

Hair grows. Let her do it. Tell her how good it looks. Take lots of pictures. Use them in the years to come.

Well, I didn't mean to exclude "non-mommies." :) It's just that "hair" isn't usually a subject men often discuss. Layla is already considered different in a good way among her peers. She's very artsy, creative, and very individualistic. She's much braver than I was as a ten year old. Her school is very open as well, so the streaks wouldn't be a big deal that way.
Her father and I are musicians...very into our hair actually! :laugh: But she's just still a little girl. The thought of messing with her hair at age 10 was just not something I'd ever thought about. Maybe if she'll get rid of the 50 plus Barbies she never plays with and their houses, mansions, vacation houses, and cars, I'd be more open to the whole streak thing.

Mare "daddys streak, too" Rivera :cool3:

[Mare]

When I was just a little older than her, my parents let me tint my hair purple/eggplant with this stuff called "Manic Panic" (do they even make it anymore?) that was a semi-permanent cellophane type color thing. And you know, I turned out ok. Well, so-so on some days, but hey at least I pay the bills and I know how to cook and dance, right? I have a couple of skills.

Hair grows, and if there's any time to be wild it's now. She'll have alot harder time with fuschia streaks when she's interviewing for med school, so better to let her do it now. ;)


Yes, Manic Panic is alive and well. :)

[Revawter]

The only reason I said for her to do it in the summer is because I feel that too soon, so many young girls focus too much on their looks. And I think school should be for learning. It depends on the kid. If she has rock out self-esteem and plays sports etc then that's different. I just get sad when I see a lot of young girls -- and I think that I am scared of my own daughter growing up. And she is only 16 months. :(

[happysmileylady]

My daughter is also 10. It's an um...interesting....age :laugh:

I am relatively certain that my daughter would not request fushia streaks in her hair. I am lucky I can get her to brush it :laugh: I just taught her how to use mousse/hairspray yesterday. However, I honestly believe that if she suddenly decided that she wanted fushia streaks, I would likely let her. However that would depend on the reason she had.

It's very important to me that my daughter not grow up with any sort of focus on her looks. So, when she decides she wants to do something to her appearance, we first discuss why. I also don't want her to be focused on doing something that others want her to. So, usually, reasons that have to do with what other kids think are not really good enough. But just from what you have posted-artsy, individualistic etc-in your situation, I would likely let her.

[hort1]

Well, I didn't mean to exclude "non-mommies." :) It's just that "hair" isn't usually a subject men often discuss.

I know you didn't. :)

Actually, hair has become a topic of some interest in our house. All of the boys - well, a lot of them - have really long shaggy 1970's hair. My son did until recently, when his mother (who simply cannot be trusted with such things) took him for a haircut on the eve of a big activity he is involved in. The person she took him to butchered it, lopped it all off into something just short of a crew cut. Much unmanly sobbing and wailing ensued at home as a result (the boy, not me), and there was some doubt as to whether he would actually be able to perform the next day. I had to help him style it as best we could.

Kids are aware of their appearance, and styles and trends are I think more topical than in the past, at an earlier age. I don't think it's necessarily a "bad" thing, it's just what it is. Plus, whether we are ready for it or not, pre-adolescence is starting to kick in and manifest itself in different ways.



Layla is already considered different in a good way among her peers. She's very artsy, creative, and very individualistic. She's much braver than I was as a ten year old. Her school is very open as well, so the streaks wouldn't be a big deal that way.
Her father and I are musicians...very into our hair actually! :laugh: But she's just still a little girl. The thought of messing with her hair at age 10 was just not something I'd ever thought about. Maybe if she'll get rid of the 50 plus Barbies she never plays with and their houses, mansions, vacation houses, and cars, I'd be more open to the whole streak thing.

Mare "daddys streak, too" Rivera :cool3:


Hey, sounds like a great girl, and that this is just her personality in development. I hope you guys have fun with it.

hort "go ahead and call me metrosexual, and my little boy too - we don't care, we're at the salon" 1

[goodfairy7]

I wanted to dye my hair when I was a kid too.
My mom refused to let me until I was 18.
Thank goodness.
I am the only person I know with natural hair color.
Never having dyed my hair had made me, in a way, unique.
Good luck mom :gvibes:

[Krystal]

Why not? I say go for it! My ds has had a red Mohawk for over a year (he is 7 now). He now wants to color it a few different colors and he has an appointment with my stylist Tuesday. I think its great that your dd knows how she wants to express herself. Its just hair IMO. I know that I will have bigger issues down the road to put my energy in to. :gvibes:

[Lavish304]

Why not? I say go for it! My ds has had a red Mohawk for over a year (he is 7 now). He now wants to color it a few different colors and he has an appointment with my stylist Tuesday. I think its great that your dd knows how she wants to express herself. Its just hair IMO. I know that I will have bigger issues down the road to put my energy in to. :gvibes:


Picking your battles is the way to go, IMO!!!

[tweety]

Well, my 8-year-old daughter came hom from Christmas vacation with blonde and fuchsia streaks in her hair!!! She was visiting her much older sister who works at a salon. The hairdresser put in very thin strips of color on both sides of her part and they blend into her hair when she puts her hair behind her ears.

I said "okay" to light highlights, so I was quite surprised when she came home with color. Oddly enough, her teacher and all the moms at school really liked it, and I was expecting to get an attitude from the moms. The fuchsia was not outrageous, but it was permanent. I would have said, "No," because I feel like kids should look like kids, but now I think it's cute.

I agree with Revawter about girls worrying about looks too early on, too. My daughter swims twice a week so the chlorine is slowly fading out the color.

[Glam]

Okay, I'm not a Mom, and swore I wouldn't bug people in the parenting forum, but when I saw it was Layla I had to pop in...

Have you ever seen when they just dye the bottom inch or so of hair? It looks soooo cool.
It takes a lot less upkeep than streaks, you can easily cut the bottom off if you need to look more conservative, and if you have to double-process, you're only frying the bottom of you hair.

Also, if you go to Sally Beauty they have hair color that is in a wand like mascara and it comes in all colors. Christian Dior used to make the best one - you can probably still get it on ebay.

Me, running out of this forum before the water touches me! :D ------------------------------>

[thissideofgaudy]

My oldest boy wanted blond streaks in his brown hair when he was about this age. I let him do it and he didn't want to have it again when it grew out. I figure, it isn't permanent and it is the child's life.

[boydbr]

Also, if you go to Sally Beauty they have hair color that is in a wand like mascara and it comes in all colors. Christian Dior used to make the best one - you can probably still get it on ebay.
I was going to suggest this. She could always get a couple colored extentions added. They make extentions that will just clip in the hair too. If she got bored she could always change the color.

[Rokki]

It's just that "hair" isn't usually a subject men often discuss.

You need to hang out with some of the men I know, thats ALL they discuss. :laugh:

[kbsocial]

You need to hang out with some of the men I know, thats ALL they discuss. :laugh:


:rofl3:

Auntie KB says go for it - course thats how aunties roll :halo:

[ImWho]

I also thought about saying yes just for the summer, but not now. And I may stick with that. The woman who does our hair is pretty cool. She may simply tell Layla she won't do it anyway.
I'm going to call her next week and talk to her about it, but I always like to get the "mommy" consensus and see if anyone has experienced this already.

Mare "no tattoos until 11" Rivera :cool3:
As other posters my intial reaction is "No way, too young!"
I agree, let her do her hair thing maybe through the summer. If you choose to let her do it during school, make sure you arent going to have a problem of her being "distractive" with her new streaks.
After reading this and thinking on it myself ...... I think I need to open a door for my 7 year old (8 in July). She and I could meet in the middle on something, she deserves to be herself, and find out what she likes.
It's hair, it'll grow out. In the meantime we can stare in awe at our kids for a bit eh'? :laugh:

[peachis]

Ok Im sooo glad I found this thread LOL!My little girl is only 4.yes 4. But she has every barbie movie, and she absolutely loves Masquarade madness and barbie goes hollywood.Now all the *girls* in them have streaked hair.I actually like one of them, blonde w/ the dark purplish streaks(and yes Im contemplating lol!)And of course my Kat asked me if she could get pretty colors in her hair.am i going to do it? yup i am and here's why

growing up I was not even allowed to cut my hair at ALL.yes bangs down my back and hair past my waste.My mom just wouldn't accept the fact that girls *sliced up their hair* (but oddly enough, when my mom decided to cut all her hair off and dye it blonde,now that was ok!)
So, when i grew up I had my hair cut short 1 time.never again, it's no where near as long, but it's a little past my shoulders.Now my angel wants to express herself and yup i'm going to let her do it.She loves colors, to draw, paint, sing and dance.And you know what? If it makes her that happy yes Ill let her.Of course it wont be perm. no way on that 1.But she'll see if she likes it.Now I hope I dont get too bashed here, because she is so young, but she has a smart little mind going there...and when she goes to have hers done, ill have mine done too(although she insists mine has to be blue, that should be interesting LOL!)
I personally don't care what others think about my hair, or what i wear.And i dont want kat to feel like she *has* to be like anyone else either.I want her to be, well her .
it's really up to the parents.I dont know if id change my mind if kat was in school yet or not, but hey im sure that bridge is just waiting on me right down the road lol!

[Mrsloon]

What about something like the color pulse products?
http://www.walgreens.com/store/product.jsp?CATID=100661&navAction=jump&navCount=1&id=prod1313683
It says it washes out in 8-10 shampoos. My boys wanted colored spikes.... they are 5 & 7. I went to Sallys and bought Beyond the Zone colored hair cement. They love it! It washes out each night too.

It fades, but doesn't wash out that easily, so she may have it longer. My 13 year old did this with the plum color. It looked really cute and was quite pink (magenta) in spots. It's finally fading out.

[Mare]

You guys are great! :) I just gave Layla a choice of the many ways this could be done and she said, I want the mascara one where I can paint the streaks on and wash them out. Yay!

So Glamorosi...don't run away so quickly next time. ;)

I'm going out to Ulta today to see what they have.

Mare "streakin' to the store...well not really" Rivera " :cool3:

[bigskwinner]

my daughters hair is dirty blonde and in the summer it turns quite blonde from the sun
we had done this weird thing for halloween and it was SUPPOSED to be a temp rinse to make her hair black as she was a egyptian princess..well it rained that night and her hair sorta looked a purplish color

so i did a few streaks in her hair when i was doing mine to bring out the blonde again

we also use the shampoo for blondes on her hair (my son gets the red stuff lol) to help bring out the high lights

when i was young i started dying my hair when i was about 13 ... but i have see some as young as grade 2, here in our small town, with the chunking done (the girls aunt is a hairdresser in the city) ..alot of the girls in my daughters class have had chunking and streaking done and there is a boy in grade 3 whos quite blonde that has big red streaks in his hair

[ImWho]

You guys are great! :) I just gave Layla a choice of the many ways this could be done and she said, I want the mascara one where I can paint the streaks on and wash them out. Yay!

So Glamorosi...don't run away so quickly next time. ;)

I'm going out to Ulta today to see what they have.

Mare "streakin' to the store...well not really" Rivera " :cool3:
I wonder where or what sites sell this online?
Anyone know?

[Mare]

And here's what I got...

First I drove to Ulta, but noticed they had a Sally's a few doors down, so I checked that out first since so many of you mentioned it.
They didn't have a Fuschia hair mascara, but they had "Streaks and Tips" Temporary Color Spray in the right shade, so I picked that up. Then I strolled over to Ulta and guess what they had?

Streekers Hot Hair for Cool Kids with soft tip applicator in hot pink/fuschia. wOOt! Jackpot.
It just shampoos right out.

So we can do the streak thing or the tips/chunky thing. She's very happy. :)

Streaks and Tips - $3.99
Streekers - $9.00
Happy Kid - Priceless

Mare "in good company" Rivera :cool3:

[venus_de_milo]

I would be interested in the non-permanent stuff, but mainly because I'd be worried about using chemicals on a kid. I'm not too particular about hair--I want my girls to look like girls but if they wanted to do a funky color then I probably would let them.

[peachis]

Wooohoo!Glad you found it!!

If anyone knows of a place online that sells streak kits that washes out will you please pm me?I wanna surprise my angel.lol

[Mare]

Here:

http://www.streekers.com/

You can buy right from the site.

Mare "getting ready to streek" Rivera :cool3:

[Glam]

And here's what I got...

First I drove to Ulta, but noticed they had a Sally's a few doors down, so I checked that out first since so many of you mentioned it.
They didn't have a Fuschia hair mascara, but they had "Streaks and Tips" Temporary Color Spray in the right shade, so I picked that up. Then I strolled over to Ulta and guess what they had?

Streekers Hot Hair for Cool Kids with soft tip applicator in hot pink/fuschia. wOOt! Jackpot.
It just shampoos right out.

So we can do the streak thing or the tips/chunky thing. She's very happy. :)

Streaks and Tips - $3.99
Streekers - $9.00
Happy Kid - Priceless

Mare "in good company" Rivera :cool3:


AWESOME! :gvibes:

[goodfairy7]

That is so cool!
What a lucky kid to have a momme go through so much trouble to make her happy. :gvibes:

[pearlleemay]

I am glad you are going along with her wishes.

I say let her do whatever she wants. My younger daughter is now 14. When she was in third grade she slicked her hair back every single day with hair gel for an entire year. She used gobs and gobs of it and when you touched her hair it crunched. She would slick it back and put it in a ponytail. I let her. Now I wonder what her teacher and other people thought. She was convinced she had to gel her hair every day.

My older daughter when she was 11 went on a sleepover and her two friends dyed her hair dark reddish purple. She was not too happy with the results and she has never experimented with her hair again. She is 16. Today though she told me she wants some streaks so I think I will take her to the beauty college and treat her to that.