Had it with my dads family

[Jennylou]

OK lets see where to start. My drunk uncle just burned down his house. Guess who has been taking care of him for the last year cause she loves her dad so much that she would put up with his drunk brother? ME thats right. Why have I had it? I hate my dads sister, and her husband with a passion. Lots of things behind this. LIke when we were children one summer we almost starved if not for awful eggs to eat. My dad worked two jobs that summer day and night. and he did this so he could keep two homes his and my grandmas from starving. My grandma had three grown kids and four babies living there. All who have grown up to be "better" than us. NEVER A THANK YOU!!!
Dads sister has not got the guts to stand up to her husband. All the time when I see them they pop off at me about the drunk. So I said to her tonight dont you even feel bad for him? ANd my dad got mad at me told me not to be jumping on to her. I could have said you self serving @@@@@ why did you show up. YOU have said you dont care what happens to him. ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH..... I have talked to my sister about it and she is right.
She said even if my aunt died as a child alot of the bad things that went on in our childhood would have still happened. THey all were taught things by my horrible grandfather, like drinking and being mad at nothing. Yeah I got the get mad problem.
So HOw do I fight the demons of yesterday and go on. To be honest I want to sever all ties with everyone on that side of the family. Kinda hard to do when two of them work at walmart and part of them live in same community.
My grandma has lost it anyway. She has alzeheimers and wonders why I dont call or come around. I cant take it anymore. I decided after one cousin was murdered and I healed from that, this is not what I want my boys to think is the way family is. I love my sister, and I cant see if she had a problem totally cutting her out of my life.
Alot of things were said down there tonight that shouldnt have been and it wasnt by me. I am honestly trying to figure out how not to hate these people who laugh at someones demise. IT sickens me. And it shows their idiocrocy.
Just feeling lost and hopeless at moment. :mad2: :mad2:
OH yeah and when I walked back to my own house I find my husband had plugged up an electric heater and the plug was smoking :frown3: :mad2: And he wasnt here. So now it is in the yard. And he cant understand why I was mad at him :frown3:

[tamiwami]

you have a lot on your plate and I can see why you are frustrated. My honest opinion is that people need to take care of themselves. Why can't your drunk uncle get into rehab and get a job and be self supportive? I mean, all these people are adults! They need to get with the program and not expect others to take care of them. It's not your job, and you will get nowhere with your life if you are constantly taking care of others.

Good luck!

[Khearts]

WOW, so sorry you are going through such a hard time!! I hope everything gets better for you and remember there is only so much you can do. Take a step back (if you can) and take some time.

Good luck to you!!! :gvibes:

[Jennylou]

well they have turned this all into my mom and dads fault. I am writing them off and they can kiss it. I am not hurt by their opinions honestly. I know it hurts dad and I hate that. But for a person to change they have to want to, I did all I could to encourage him to get a job and support himself and he only wants to drink. No longer my problem. Never was actually so I am laying it down. Mostly trying to figure out how to kill all those past demons. But as I lay in bed this morning I think that my sis had clarified it for me. And there is nothing to change the past. I really feel some better. They will all get over it sooner or later.

But guess what they expect mom to pay for the fire deptment coming out. Hillarious actually.

Thanks for listening and thank you for being such wonderful friends.:hugs:

[aimrbee]

Just wanted to send out a great big hug to you!

[noni1959]

Taking him in for a year is too long. Always set time limits. There are plenty of programs for adults to help get back into society. It is not your duty because you are family. If someone gets mad at you, so be it. Tell them to take him in. You do not have to hate your family and can actually forgive them. That does not mean you have to go around them or like them. I "divorced" my family once mom passed in December and I rarely run into them. When I do, I walk the other way.

It brings peace in your life. Tell your dad you love him and helped him all you can. It's someone else's turn.