I'm sad today...

[LollieK]

My best friend is moving today. We've been friends for over 11 years, next-door neighbors for 4 (that's right, I bought the house next to her). She has been with me through first babies, a divorce, a hip replacement surgery, a remarraige (which she handled all aspects of the wedding - I just had to show up), and second and third babies. She has been my rock, and I've tried to be hers. In December I had the honor of helping her deliver her 4th child. Our kids have played together, we've watched them for each other, our husbands have become good friends as well. I hate it that she has to go, but her husband got a great job in Asheville that he just couldn't pass up on - and really the only reason for them to stay here would be me. They don't really have any other ties here. And he is way to qualified for anything this town has to offer.

This has been a few months in the making - only now it is here. All week I've been helping her go through things, clean things up, and get ready for the movers (her husband has already started his job, so she has been doing it alone). Yesterday they finished up the packing and today they are loading up the truck.

I hate it. I know that Asheville is not too far a drive (about 5 hours), but the reality is that life will get in the way of frequent trips. Heck, I have a hard time getting to Atlanta to see my parents. They have to come to us to see the grandkids. Thank goodness for the telephone and email. However, it won't be the same as just going out my garage to her kitchen for a cup of coffee (or borrowing an egg, or potatoes, or advice).

Sorry for the dumping. Just had to get it off my chest. It's amazing to me how friendships form and how wonderful they can be, and how strongly you can feel about another person other than your spouse or family. And how much it hurts when they have to go.

[Rybitski]

Oh this is so sad!
I dont have ANY friends. Its so sad, I hope that your new neighbor and you can become friends and maybe it will help!

[Maprinces3]

I am so sorry... I understand how hard this can be! We have moved so many times, and each time I have to leave all my new friends and my kids have to also. I hope that your new neighbor becomes a new friend and that you are able to keep in touch with your old one!

[maudie]

Look at it this way...it's a great opportunity to visit Asheville. At least it's not across the country.

[gr8tjoy]

Awww, poor Lolly, I'm so sorry. I've moved 13 times in the past 16 years, 4 states. I left my best friend behind 2 states and 6 years ago. It's a 3 hour drive for me but I go see her once a month. We spend the day together, just us.

It will be hard, but knowing you aren't alone helps. :cry: We are all here if you need someone to cry with. Take care and God bless.

[MrsM]

I'm sorry too Lolly. I don't have any friends here either, but I do miss my girlfriend who moved away years ago. We still keep in touch.

[chancebunny]

I'm sorry that your best friend is moving. You were lucky to have had such a wonderful relationship with your neighbor. I hope that you will still be able to visit with her from time to time.

[Jdevall]

may your new neighbor be a best friend!

[AngelIz]

LollieK,

I'm very sorry to hear about your friend moving.

But at least she is going to be close enough that you
will be able to visit her sometimes.

We had to move alot when I was little, but unfortunately,
we did not have the internet back then, so I lost touch
with all my friends.
But now, thanks to technology, you will be able to
keep in frequent touch with her. :)

[jcazel]

something good will come of this, :smile11: you'll oneday look back and
realize it was for the best :wavy: keep the faith

[Tishab]

:hugs: for you! Sorry that your best friend is moving!

[rosn]

it sound like this friendship goes much beyond circumstance and is that rare friendship of true substance! may you find a way to keep it strong and cherished!

nancy

[LollieK]

Thanks all! I've been weepy all morning, yet in reading back on my post I hope you all don't think this is stupid or silly. Imagine a 40 year old woman behaving this way.

Well, the truck is here, and I'm going over to just hang out. Again, thanks.

[diesel51]

My husband retired and we moved to Florida. She was the only good friend I ever had. She even flew in to surprise me for my birthday. Have a winning day and many wins to you!!

[auctions]

I am so sorry for you, what a loss. Hopefully, one day you will be together again.
jenn

[missreneer]

Thanks all! I've been weepy all morning, yet in reading back on my post I hope you all don't think this is stupid or silly. Imagine a 40 year old woman behaving this way.

Well, the truck is here, and I'm going over to just hang out. Again, thanks.

It's not silly at all. I wish I had friends to visit. I am happy you have her. Just know she's always a phone call away and you can always visit. Big hugs and I hope you start to feel better.

[starry1st]

I'm sorry for your loss. You both have been so lucky to have found such a good friend. Try to see her as often as you can, but keeping in touch by telephone will help so much. Most of the time you just need a good friend to listen to you and that can be done via phone.

Good luck in dealing with the adjustment of her not being right next door.

[tsunrisebey]

Hang in there! It's like losing a sister.........the nice thing will be when you're on the phone, you'll pick up right where you left off and it will be like you've never been seperated by the miles! Best wishes to the both of you!

[bearbaby_26]

Last fall I had to move six hours away from my best friend. So, I know just how you feel. My friend just had her second baby and its killing me that I haven't seen him yet. Please don't feel silly!! :hugs:

[skpaw]

I am sorry you have to be apart from your friend. Keep in touch by phone and instant messages and it won't be as hard. :grouphug:

[SeaAngel]

Not silly or stupid at all Lollie, good friends are hard to come by. Sending you a :hugs: and a wish for a nice win to lift your spirits. :gvibes: