Inconsiderate or not?

[Defenderofthefaith]

My husband knows I can't stand when he runs the water while shaving, brushing his teeth or washing his hands but still does it(we've been married for more that 5 years.) He also runs the washing machine with just a few items(ie not a full load) Our gas bill is outrageous and we're on a tight budget. I think it's incredibly rude--am I wrong? :mad2:

[elainmir]

Ok girlfriend I am gonna let you in on a secret..men don't think like us ok? Its not intentional when they do those things...they don't sit to pee so they don't understand WHY in the world we would be upset at swimming with the tidy bowel man at 3 am? You could also put BIG SIGNS on things saying wash full load only or TURN ME OFF on the faucets..maybe he just needs reminders :laugh: Seriously try talkin to him again...with love in your voice, not like you want to strangle him ok? :laugh: Good luck

[infinitybean]

Well, it could be "incredibly rude."

Or he could just be a giant oaf.

OR, he could be passive-aggressively trying to wrest back control of his life from a wife who thinks it's her right to regiment every aspect of his existence - even his activity in the bathroom.

Let the man brush his teeth in peace.

[Current]

What may seem to be a little thing to one person, may be a huge deal to another. This forum is called "Vent", and that is what people do here. They don't come here to be judged, they just want to get things out. What one person may be able to get over, another may have some trouble doing so.


:gvibes:

[nancy_k1]

Sorry that I can't offer any help. I run the faucet while brushing my teeth and so does my husband and my son. I will wash just one outfit if it is the one I am wanting to wear and it isn't clean. However I do understand being on a budget too. Maybe he just isn't thinking about it the way you do. I mean I have a shoe rack at the door and yet after almost 10 years my husband still can't seem to find it when he takes off his shoes. I don't think he is intentially doing it........he just isn't thinking about it the way I do. Just try a nice talk with him and don't be mad about it. I'm sure he isn't trying to get under your skin he just isn't thinking about the bills when he is trying to get clean. Good luck to you.

[Cerris]

I'd have to vote not. Granted men don't think like women, that's why we're men, but he just has his habits and you have yours. I'm pretty sure that there's a number of things about you that annoy him, but he's probably just not telling you. Most likely for not wanting to argue with you & start a fight over something trival or realizing that marriage is a compromise and you have to give & take in order for it to work. Whatever you decide, I hope you don't let the little things get to you too much or you'll never be happy. ;)

[bulldglit]

I agree with Cerris. After 18 years of marriage, I can tell you that there are things that my husband does that drives me crazy. I can also tell you about things that I do that makes him crazy. You have to let the little things in a marriage go. Marriage is definitely an area where you choose your battles carefully. You also might want to look deep down inside and make sure that it is his little habits that are annoying you or if there is a more substantial problem with your marriage that needs to be talked out.

[Hhhyyyddd]

Yes, it is incredibly inconsiderate. To nag at a man about his private bathroom habits, that is.

[Defenderofthefaith]

Thanks for all the feedback but I just needed to vent(thanks, Current!) I will try to keep it in perspective! :smile9:

[elainmir]

Hey I do want to let you know I was only trying to make you smile not attack you for venting ok? Hope ya get things worked out! :cool2:

[Defenderofthefaith]

Oh, Elaine, I know you weren't attacking me for venting :laugh: Thanks for your input!

[jenninshelby]

Personally, I would keep reminding him this Really bugs me. How hard is it for him to turn the water off? I guess you could be thankful he will wash anything at all. lol. :)

[Maineiac]

I say be grateful he brushes his teeth, washes his hands and does some laundry...