Who Loves Ya Baby

[groovyguru]

In your romantic relationships, which of you loved the other more? The man or woman? Be honest, no tracking of your response.

[Current]

No question. I have always loved the most. C'ept for that guy in the 12th grade whose heart I crushed.

[SweepingBeauty]

Romantic relationships?-me

Friend relationships?-me

[Defenderofthefaith]

I do believe I love the most. :twocents:

[cpnqn]

I might have loved them- but I know they loved me more than they understood- My highschool sweetheart- was abusive- though he never wanted to leave me because he was deeply in love with me, after one bout- I finally realized I had to get him to leave because otherwise I wouldn't go- I sat him down- explained I was too young to die, look at these marks you did this to me, he cried like a baby, then I followed it up with- if you love me like you say you do- you will leave me- I know you love me more than life itself and would die for me- but please leave me before you kill the one person you love- I told him I was walking out of the room to make his choice- he walked down- and out of my life- he called constantly and wrote all kinds of notes apologizing for those years- when he found out I wasn't coming back- he threatened friends that he was going to kill me- but ran into me face to face and cried like a baby again. He was so ashamed and still in love it isnt funny- I was over it- I just hate hurting people so I don't like to leave them.
My x-husband- still obsessive- I was over that before I was into it. longer story.
My next boyfriend- cried like a baby for me too- even after the 3rd time he cheated, after I paid him back with every bit of fury this woman can give- he still stalks me! eww!
And my dh now- I sincerely love with all my heart- but after so many screwballs- I still wear my protective gear- he is closer than anyone since my sweetheart- but no one will get that close again really. But he is my soulmate- the one that is meant for me. He is good to me, and can keep it in his pants for the rest of his life...

[VSLibby]

because it varies so much by relationship and even fluctuates within many relationships, but I can say that I certainly feel more comfortable being the one who loves more.

[tommy]

do i gotta tell ya the truth mr. groovy :laugh: :laugh:

i gotta admit in all the relationships i have had over the years the lass involved always loved me a lot more than i loved them

[groovyguru]

I have always loved more & got hurt more. I wonder if having the other person more in love is preferable? I don't know. Sorta like the old joke, "Always marry an ugly woman. If she leaves you, who cares."

I don't know if I could be in a relationship where I "only" strongly liked the other person, when she deeply loved me. I would feel dishonest. I think the best relationships are where both people have developed a deep friendship & genuine love that goes beyond the physical and is really based on trust, integrity & personality. I fear that this type of relationship is as rare as an honest politician.

[skpaw]

I have been married to my husband for 21 years. He still loves me a lot, tells me all the time and I love him enough to give him a kidney. I wanted to keep him around and healthy. So I think we are pretty close. Even before we got married, we discussed our feeling about divorce. We are both quite opposed to it personally. We don't fight much at all. I guess I will keep him. :love: