phoebe
January 7th, 2004, 8:05pm
Let me first note...that the opinions and statements expressed in this email may or may not be the opinion of the poster ( :laugh: ) I just thought it was good food for thought...
Some of these may not be correct (I'm doing a little insider research at the moment,) but some of them are pretty good and at the very least should give us a little reminder to always be aware of our surroundings.
:gvibes:
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I don't know the origin of this email but think it is good food for thought.
Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)
> >
> >A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what
> >they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
> >
> >1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They
> >are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other
> >hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a
> >woman with long hair. Women w! ith short hair are not common targets.
> >
> >2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women
> >who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors
> >around to cut clothing.
> >
> >3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their
> >purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard
> >and can be easily overpowered.
> >
> >4) The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is in
> >the early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m.
> >
> >5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at is grocery
> >store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number
> >three is public restrooms.
> >
> >6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman
> >and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to worry
> >about getting caught.
> >
> >7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year
> >sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
> >
> >8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because
> >it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you
> >isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
> >
> >9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or
> >other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
> >Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the
> >attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these gu!
ys
> >you're not worth it.
> >
> >10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following
> >behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or
> >stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time
> >is it, or make general small talk, I can't believe it is so cold ou! t
> >here, we're in for a bad winter. Now you've seen their face and could
> >identify them in a lineup, you lose appeal as a target.
> >
> >11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you
> >and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said
> >they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be
> >afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
> >
> >12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it
> >and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY
and
> >holding it out will be a deterrent.
> >
> >13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you
> >can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind,
> >pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or
in
> >the upper inner thigh -- HARD. One woman in a class t! his guy taught
> >told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date
rape
> >her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle
> >strands -the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places
as
> >hard as you can stand it ; it hurts.
> >
> >14) After the initial hit, always go for the groin.. I know from a
> >particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is
> >extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make
> >him want to hurt you more, but the thi! ng these rapists told our
> >instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble.
> >Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.
> >
> >15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers
> >and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down
> >on them as possible.. The instructor did it to me without using much
> >pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
> >
> >16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of
> >your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any
odd
> >behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel a little
> >silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy real! ly was
> >trouble.
> >
> >PLEASE READ THEN FORWARD THIS TO EVERY WOMAN YOU KNOW. IT'S SIMPLE
STUFF,
> >BUT IT COULD SAVE HER LIFE. PASS IT ON TO EVERY MAN YOU KNOW TO SHARE
> >WITH THE WOMEN IN HIS LIFE, TOO.
Some of these may not be correct (I'm doing a little insider research at the moment,) but some of them are pretty good and at the very least should give us a little reminder to always be aware of our surroundings.
:gvibes:
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I don't know the origin of this email but think it is good food for thought.
Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)
> >
> >A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what
> >they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
> >
> >1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They
> >are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other
> >hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a
> >woman with long hair. Women w! ith short hair are not common targets.
> >
> >2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women
> >who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors
> >around to cut clothing.
> >
> >3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their
> >purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard
> >and can be easily overpowered.
> >
> >4) The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is in
> >the early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m.
> >
> >5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at is grocery
> >store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number
> >three is public restrooms.
> >
> >6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman
> >and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to worry
> >about getting caught.
> >
> >7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year
> >sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
> >
> >8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because
> >it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you
> >isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
> >
> >9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or
> >other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
> >Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the
> >attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these gu!
ys
> >you're not worth it.
> >
> >10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following
> >behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or
> >stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time
> >is it, or make general small talk, I can't believe it is so cold ou! t
> >here, we're in for a bad winter. Now you've seen their face and could
> >identify them in a lineup, you lose appeal as a target.
> >
> >11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you
> >and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said
> >they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be
> >afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
> >
> >12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it
> >and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY
and
> >holding it out will be a deterrent.
> >
> >13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you
> >can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind,
> >pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or
in
> >the upper inner thigh -- HARD. One woman in a class t! his guy taught
> >told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date
rape
> >her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle
> >strands -the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places
as
> >hard as you can stand it ; it hurts.
> >
> >14) After the initial hit, always go for the groin.. I know from a
> >particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is
> >extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make
> >him want to hurt you more, but the thi! ng these rapists told our
> >instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble.
> >Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.
> >
> >15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers
> >and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down
> >on them as possible.. The instructor did it to me without using much
> >pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
> >
> >16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of
> >your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any
odd
> >behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel a little
> >silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy real! ly was
> >trouble.
> >
> >PLEASE READ THEN FORWARD THIS TO EVERY WOMAN YOU KNOW. IT'S SIMPLE
STUFF,
> >BUT IT COULD SAVE HER LIFE. PASS IT ON TO EVERY MAN YOU KNOW TO SHARE
> >WITH THE WOMEN IN HIS LIFE, TOO.